In brief: TRUST – the ‘glue’ of life

According to a number of scholars, TRUST is ‘measuring’ the quality of a relationship, and it can’t be built in a few minutes but rather trough a lengthy and consistent process, based on which behavioral habits or patterns play a key role.

“Trust it one of the most expensive things in the world –
it can take years to earn it and just a matter of seconds to lose it.”

Over time, it has been recognized that trust does not come by the force of will – on the contrary, the more you struggle to impose it on yourself the farther it will become for you to reach it! Many people believe that trust is something that one is born with, and after birth one must continuously work to attain it, most of the time through the path of knowledge and observation.

The ‘attitude’ of trust toward life in general, toward oneself is a fundamental component of a healthy life, which allows hope to grow, dreams to come true, encouragement to flourish, vitality to improve and the joy of life to propagate!

“TRUST is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient of effective communication & the foundational principle that holds all relationships." (Steve Covey)

TRUST gives you the assurance and the freedom to believe that no matter what you encounter on your path, life still continues to have meaning, life still continues to be beautiful despite the imperfections as where is trust there is hope, where is hope there is life, where is life there is love – consequently trust becomes the most important step to love, and love it is the most powerful force in the universe able to melt anything. Love never fails! Lover conquers all!

Trust, but don’t be naive. May your trust flourish as time goes by! 

Few insights about RESPECT & SINCERITY

There are lots of important matters which would necessitate close attention, but from all, I truly believe that respect and sincerity require careful consideration because both play fundamental roles.

As we all know, the ancient wisdom states that respect is a universal value that each person desires not only to embody, but also to receive. In other words, respect is a two-way street...if you want to be respected you would have to respect others as well. 

Further on this, we could simply state that respect is a global evaluation you give someone based not only on words, but also on personal acts, deeds and /or attitudes. Aside, if people would understand that their feelings and thoughts are taken into consideration that would make others respectful as well. Also, it helps to refresh that true respect is earned not imposed. If one demonstrates respect toward others, implicitly the others will reciprocate on the same note, or at least they should do so.
Following that, I would like to emphasize that true respect begins with self-respect, which basically would encompass your views of how you are actually living your own life. As a result, self-respect then extends toward your circle/s, in respect of others. At the same time, true respect comes with a clear understanding of differences, in a completely nonjudgmental manner. From a social stand point, in our days, there are recognized two types of respect: the first one is the respect which comes from wealth or social status, and this type is impermanent because it is circumstantial (if a specific person loses all the social privileges then the related respect would vanish), and the second type is the one which comes from the virtues a person holds (such as honesty, commitment, integrity, kindness, etc.) and this type nobody can take away. 

Nevertheless, if someone gets very fond of the virtues s/he is possessing that person might begin to look down upon everybody else and as a result the value of the embodied virtues would diminish dramatically, because only the non-attachment to your virtues would bring genuine self-respect which is not to be confused with ego; ego would need another one to compare with as opposed to self-respect which is basically self-confidence or self-esteem.  
Once again, I would like to highlight that in life, true respect is earned, it can’t be imposed or demanded, and you need to give it in order to get it. Clearly, if someone doesn’t respect your feelings or your values it means that person doesn’t respect you.

As our elders would say, treat people the way you want to be treated, and talk to people the way you want to be talked to. This, very easily, could begin with any of us! Why not start trying to be more specific in showing that you respect yourself and that you respect others. What if we all start to respect each other more as human beings and then expand in respect of other people’s beliefs, opinions, and views about life in general, in a peaceful, non-judgmental and harmonious manner? Can you imagine what a wonderful place this world would be?! When people truly respect one another they cooperate well with each other and there could be less conflicts, more harmonious relationships, less wars, more peace and for sure way more beautiful projects could nicely come into existence…without any doubt, true respect has a deep significance in our society, as well as a major evolutionary connotation. 

Respect for ourselves guides our morals and respect for others guides our manners.

On the other hand, sincerity is a beautiful virtue based on which a person always speaks or acts truthfully in alignment with personal feelings or believes. Sincerity always should involve a pure mind and impeccable action/s, while simply being who you are and being OK with that. A sincere person is always a welcome addition to any environment. Aside of that, I truly believe that sincerity requires a fair amount of personal freedom as well.
Also, there are lots of studies clearly showing that lack of sincerity, basically means lack of empathy, lack of understanding, and lack of carrying. Many stories have been written over time emphasizing that sincerity is a crucial key to loyalty and trust. It is well known by now that true sincerity always breeds positive and lasting relationships between all kinds of people, but be mindful though that the ones who try to fake sincerity are putting themselves at high risk, because sooner or later the true self would surface and if it is not in good standing that would lead to profound disappointment and lasting resentment toward the perpetrator. People who practice fake sincerity risk to have their credibility permanently damaged. There is an old saying, which states that “respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained and loyalty is returned”, and time has been showing again and again that’s always the case.
Generally speaking, if people would learn to be honest with themselves first and then understand and accept that nobody is perfect, but rather a unique piece of work in progress would help immensely, leading to a more effective communication, less frustrations, an increased level of compassion, and definitively a much better quality of collaboration. Without any doubt, sincere friends and honest opinions would benefit everyone, relationships would flourish and the correct decisions are likely to be reached. Sincerely expressing our feelings, with kindness and integrity, ultimately helps each of us to learn more about ourselves, about the people with whom we interact, and all of these would significantly impact the quality of the life we live, because life, like people, deserves sincerity.

Sincerity is the face of the soul and it is desired to be kept pure!

Summarizing my rather brief thoughts on the subject here, I could mention that in many situations it has been noticed that both respect and sincerity are perceived like an oasis in the middle of large desert, and both have the potential to elevate the human thinking, to refine the social interactions at all levels, and to enhance the quality of collaboration and cooperation, while at the same time the truth is revealed and preserved. Once into the realm truth, one could graciously extend strength and wisdom, which would be quite nourishing.
May we each strive to become better and better in what we are doing in our daily lives, having deeply rooted in our understanding that certain virtues and values always must be carefully observed if we want to co-exist in a climate of joy and lasting peace.

Our values reflect what it is important to us & the most significant moments of our lives call out for our greatest virtues. 

A socio-cultural evening of poetry & good talks

Friday evening (August 3'18) I was delighted to meet again with a group of dear friends at the Conservatory to discuss, analyze and share poetry, personal perspectives and life stories, which helped us all dive even deeper into meaningful matters. 

Also, I was pleased to welcome them with a fragment from Johann Pachelbel's sublime Canon (“In the Garden“) - a piece of classical music, which brought upon a deep sense of peace. On the other hand, as usual by now, I brought my aromatherapy diffuser with French lavender, which filled the room with such a pleasant and refreshing fragrance.

This time, we had two guests of honor – Dr. Ovidiu Grecea together with his wife. Dr. Grecea is Consul General – Head of Mission and Plenipotentiary Minister of Romania, and he brought along a noble message, re-emphasizing the importance of dialogue, communication and co-operation. We all are like branches of a tree and our lives are heading in different directions, we all grow wings and fly, but our roots always would remind us where we are coming from. Truly heart felt! 

Aside of that, our subsequent group conversations were long, open, from heart to heart, from soul to soul, from mind to mind…without any doubt, genuine, deep conversations with open-minded people are the best. Specifically speaking, our friends also brought a number of beautiful poems, dear books & a patriotic song, which triggered fond memories in many of us, and some of these I will enumerate below:

- “If“, a poem by Rudyard Kipling

- “Visam sa scriu“, a poem by Monica Pillat

- "Romanta fara ecou", a poem by Ion Minulescu

- "America ogarului cenuşiu", a book by Romulus Rusan

- “Maitreyi“, a book by Mircea Eliade (briefly mentioned though)

- A beautiful poem of Queen Maria, of Romania

- A beautiful poem of Ferdinand of Romania about Romania’s Great Unification

- A patriotic song, featuring our beautiful young adults

Following these we didn’t forget the light refreshments either, which again ignited new series of pleasant conversations around the table and offered extended socialization.

Concluding, I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to all who joined me this evening to share memories, personal journals, poems, life changing stories and special moments. Until we meet again, I send along my best wishes to each of you for a wonderful rest of the summer!
Alice

Mesaj personal din partea lui Alice, adresat direct in limba romana:

Dragii mei,
Si pe aceasta cale doresc sa-mi exprim sincera apreciere pentru participarea si atentia pe care ati acordat-o intalnirii noastre de vineri (3 aug.'18).
Poeziile recitate, amintirile enumerate, simtamintele impartasite cu o autenticitate absolut deosebita au dat un farmec unic fiecarui moment petrecut impreuna. A fost o reala placere sa depanam cu totii trairi de suflet care au re-adus pe tapet intamplari memorabile din viata fiecaruia, scrieri dragi care ne-au incalzit inimile amintindu-ne totodata de fosti profesori consacrati de odinioara, de carturari respectati, de parinti, de neam, de radacini.
Cu siguranta, dragostea pentru frumos este numitorul nostru comun, ceea ce denota multe aspecte importante. Conceptul de unitate in diversitate si diversitate in unitate a stralucit cu adevarat.
Inca odata, sincere multumiri!  
Alice
“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.” AliceFriendsCircle.blogspot.com

Mesaj primit înspre publicare din partea Domnului Dr. Ovidiu Grecea* şi al Doamnei Liliana Grecea

Pentru Doamna Alice şi pentru cei care ne-au impresionat plãcut, prin delicateţea sufleteascã, nobleţea intelectualã, bunul simţ, modestia şi normalitatea demonstrate într-o searã plinã de semnificaţii şi încãrcãturi emoţionale, unde nişte români-canadieni s-au reunit pentru setea lor de culturã şi de românism, pentru dorinţa de bine şi de un viitor frumos, artistic şi spiritual, cultural şi relaţional în comunitatea din care ei fac parte.

A fost un adevãrat balsam sufletesc, iar faptul cã poezia, filozofia, pildele de viaţã, cântecele şi sentimentele trainice şi veşnice faţã de România s-au contopit în prezentãrile, expunerile, discuţiile, dizertaţiile şi chiar controversele din aceastã magnificã întâlnire, demonstreazã cã românul este şi va fi, oriunde şi oricând, un cumul şi un vârf de omenie, de dragoste faţã de ţara lor şi de respect faţã de ţara care i-a adoptat, de oameni adevãraţi, nealteraţi sau schimonosiţi sufleteste şi mental, ci adevãrate repere existenţionale şi de devenire pentru noua generaţie.

Acum sunt puţini, dar sperãm şi avem convingerea cã în viitor elitele şi adevãratele personalitãţi reprezentative comunitare vor gãsi sursele, resursele, cãile şi modalitãţile viabile şi concrete de a se uni în cuget şi în simţire, de a-şi demonstra adevãratele lor calitãţi, forţa, tãria şi puterea de a fi numai învingãtori, de a-şi ocupa locul binemeritat într-o societate nouã, multiculturalã, care le-a oferit posibilitatea de a se integra, de a deveni, de a se simţi mai liberi şi mai încrezãtori, unde adevãratele valori sunt preţuite şi nu târâte în mocirla vremurilor actuale.

Noi, ca simpli oameni şi români pânã în mãduva fiinţei noastre, vom fi deschişi la orice iniţiative sincere şi benefice pentru comunitatea românilor de aici, pentru binele, propãşirea şi prosperitatea lor, pentru un viitor mai sigur şi mai demn, pentru unitate în gândire şi acţiune, pentru menţinerea, dezvoltarea şi perpetuarea unei relaţii sincere şi benefice a României în Canada.

Iar ca oficiali, noi nu vom pregeta de a face tot ce este omeneşte şi profesional posibil, în limitele şi competenţele noastre diplomatice şi de reprezentare, ca România şi românul sã fie pe primul loc, într-o armonie existenţionalã şi funcţionalã, pentru cã noi avem o istorie adevãratã, realã şi concretã de peste 2.000 de ani, iar bagajul nostru ancestral de experienţã de viaţã, de culturã şi de educaţie, de creştinism şi de respect al valorilor autentice, ne determinã sã fim numai: ’the best’, ’the first’, ’the no.1’!

Liliana şi Ovidiu Grecea

*Domnul Ovidiu Grecea este Consul General şi Ministru Plenipotenţiar al României la Vancouver

“BE LIKE A TREE. Stay grounded. Connect with your roots. Turn over a new leaf. Bend before you break.
Enjoy your unique natural beauty. Keep growing. ”

This event has been delivered in Romanian Language, featuring Romanian culture. 

● Fotogallery published on their website by the General Consulate of Romania in Vancouver