As
the current season is nicely unfolding, on Friday (May 20’22) we had a brief spring session for my book club series,
this time discussing “marriage”. A nice and pleasant on-line gathering
together with our core group of dear friends. To
everybody’s delight, this evening Sandu Oprea (who holds a qualification in Psychopedagogy) presented us a
concise material called: “The secret of a happy marriage” based on which our
group discussions further evolved.
My guests this evening were a mix of several generations, and as you can
imagine, the chosen topic was on everybody’s reach, leading to meaningful
debates, filled with timeless wisdom and practical tips.
Respecting
the privacy of the personal matters discussed, here are only few thoughts of
general interest as well as some additional concepts issued by scholars, which
might benefit the interested reader/s:
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A successful marriage is based on several solid pillars, such as: love, mutual
respect, loyalty, effective communication, trust, good listening skills, patience,
compassion, commitment, help and honesty - If you want to have a strong marriage it is essential to be optimistic, grateful & share responsibilities
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By being willing to learn what marriage is about and what are the most
important things in your marriage, you could determine how to enjoy married
life and how to further solidify your marital relationship
- In order to have a happy marriage it is important to work in unison, not against each other
- During lifetime, every marriage goes through ups and downs, but in order to create a solid foundation
and even out the eventual rough patches for a long-term happy marriage, make
sure you understand the true meaning of marriage and when it is necessary, clearly express your love
to your spouse
- The relationship needs to grow and evolve with steps taken into the right direction from both partners
- If you wish to have a solid marriage then it is essential to create a deep connection with your partner
- Without any doubt, marriage is one of the biggest commitments in life, and it requires love and a lot of hard work, patience and wisdom to make it successful
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Couples
should enter marriage with realistic expectations, adopt a problem-solving
approach and openly discuss their wants and needs with each other
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No
single factor and no special event can make a marriage work…partners need
to work at lacking aspects and progressively, improve them every day
- A happy, healthy and successful marriage has a number of important elements beyond love; it
means the couple understands the traits of honest compromising, the implications of vulnerability, and again, the paramount significance of mutual
respect & good communication
- A marriage is a union of souls, but it may not be necessary
for those two souls to be the same as each other. Differences would be imminent
no matter how much we look for similarities when searching for a life
partner. It’s how you work with those differences that take a marriage
forward.
As
usual, our group talks were lengthy, honest, interesting, enjoyable and balanced, leaving
each of us with a very pleasant feeling of benevolent camaraderie.
Before
I’m ending my brief update here, once again I would like to express my most
sincere appreciation to those who honored my invitation.
Till we meet again, my warmest regards to all!
Alice
“It is the fragile threads of love and sharing, which
sew people together through years of marriage.”
