October 2019 – Message for THANKSGIVING Day

THANKSGIVING is such a special holiday which emphasizes the beauty of harvest time, the abundance of Earth, the celebration of work and peaceful life, as well as togetherness and gratitude…a blessed time of the year when one could easily realize the profound joy of ‘giving’ and ‘receiving’.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY, dear friends!

“Now is no time to think of what you do not have. Think of what you can do with what there is.” (Ernest Hemingway)

● A previous post on the same theme: THANKSGIVING Day – 2018

A literary autumnal evening featuring GRATITUDE

Friday (October 11’19) marked a beautiful warm and sunny day of autumn, when I was delighted to meet with a groups of good friends to share, ponder and discuss special life situations which emphasize gratitude, thankfulness and appreciation.

This time I’ve greeted my friends with a piece of classical music, called “Ode to Joy” (Romanian: "Oda bucuriei"), composed by Ludwig van Beethoven, which brought upon a relaxing wave of peace, totally appropriate for the occasion.

After we all settled in, our program continued with a number of life related stories my guests openly and candidly shared, which in essence I will list below:
- Firstly, our friend Dorina Aldea shared with the group an essay featuring the enormous gratitude she had in her heart when her first grandson was borne (13 years ago, on January 1^st), after a very challenging period of 10 hours of intense labour, where 2 lives were at risk, but saved by a very competent and devoted medical doctor on duty at that time. When the new baby came into this world, all the pain has been forgotten by everyone, being replaced by joy and gratitude. Nowadays Julian is a lovely, smart and athletic teenager who defines happiness as the time spent with family and the freedom to choose his favorite playing activities…through his eyes, both his grandparents (Dorina & Stefan) are wonderful heroes; at the same time, his grandparents are reaching every day higher and higher realms of sincere appreciation for all what life has to offer.
- After that, our dear Asiza D. shared with the entire group a significant chapter of her life, when after 30 (thirty) years she reunited with her tween sister. A life story which emphasizes courage, love, compassion, dignity, respect and above all gratitude. The entire audience was truly touched, while we all were listening to Asiza’s words in deep silence, with misty weeping eyes.
- Further, our friend John S., who is also a medical doctor in his professional life, graciously shared with the group how rewarding it is to be able to help people in need and how important it is to remain positive under harsh life circumstances. Also, he reminded that in life the true satisfaction is given by the dedication you put into your profession, rather than focusing on the secular aspect of it.

- Next, Sandu O. enumerated several modalities of how a person could reach and maintain a balanced state of happiness and content, mentioning that in fact the meaning of these two desired feelings are very different from person to person.

- Then, our dear Emilia approached the subject from a different angle wondering if happiness is really an option, especially if one is facing a controversial life situation; in other words, how far you need to push and when you need to let it go, without compromising gratitude (the subject of discussion) or hurting your feelings while staying true to yourself.     

- At this point, Anca P. reminded how important and challenging it could be at the same time to continue to remain happy and grateful about something when you can’t control the situation.

- Additionally, Camelia refreshed that life taught her that for each difficult situation (generally regarded as ‘insoluble’) there could be found at least two solutions if you are willing to change perspective. Also, she shared that in her experience, during the most challenging situations of her life a strong bonding between parties involved occurred, which lead to lasting unforgettable memories. 

- Furthermore, Ilena shared a number of old precious memories and then recited for the group the beautiful poem called “Autumn“, by Rainer Maria Rilke (which is published in comments section, both in English & Romanian languages). 

- Also, our dear friend Lidia reminded that we can create our own happiness by being simply grateful. To her, gratitude feels like a flame which grows the more you spread it, and the further it goes the bigger it gets.

- Subsequently, Mioara told us that after she moved to Canada she is still thinking of her home country (Romania), and how it is to live in between two worlds, but nonetheless grateful to be close to her two sons.

- After that, our friend Maria commented seemingly along the same lines, expressing her gratitude for Romania (the homeland where most of us were formed & reached a certain level of expertise in our professions), which she left with a suitcase (like most of us) and then moved to Canada (the adopted country, which is allowing us a continuous growth in a balanced climate of peace and respect). 

- Then, our dear friends Dana and Adrian S. , who just returned from a vacation in Romania share their recent experience in home land – an experience filled with lots of family memories when both further realized how time is changing people and perceptions; moments to ponder and be grateful for the present.

Our group conversations were open, genuine, lengthy and full of spark…as usual by now, we wrapped up the night with light refreshments brought for the occasion, good cheer and heartfelt greetings we extended to each other for the coming Thanksgiving Day!

While at the page of "giving", this time we also gathered few donations so in December we could put together a number of bags for homeless people, when the cold weather will strike. 

On the other hand, I feel it is important to refresh that the essence of "giving" could touch the core of every human being, while bringing along joy and peace, because generosity has the capability to create a stronger community and ultimately a happier society for everyone!

Without any doubt, we all had a rewarding evening, filled with a very special sense of togetherness, for which I’m sending along my sincere gratitude to each guest. 

Until we meet again, my best wishes to all for a pleasant rest of autumn!
Alice 

“For it is in giving that we receive.” (Francis of Assisi)

This event has been delivered in Romanian Language, featuring Romanian culture. 

Briefly about TIME

Upon a recent stroll by the side of the ocean, watching how calmly and persistently the waves were washing the shore, I was reminded once again that we all grow in time, live in time and die in time. Joy, sorrow, happiness, success, fame or defeat are all blending together in different proportions as we each walk the path of life, leaving behind footprints in the sand of time.

In science, time and space are woven together like a fabric upon which all matter lies, while on a psychological level, when life speeds up it feels like time is slowing down. 
Yes – time is an opportunity, which can be used wisely or foolishly; time is more precious than money, and it is more powerful than kings and princes – they come and go, but time is forever. Nonetheless, as we each walk the walk, we all realize how powerful time is and that in fact, time and tide wait for none.

Recently I was coming across this short inspirational story, which I find worth sharing further. Enjoy the reading!

Story: This Too Shall Pass

One morning, the boy Solomon saw the goldsmith who works for King David's Palace walking out of the palace very desperate and sad.
Solomon asked the goldsmith with curiosity: - What makes you feel so sad and desperate?
The goldsmith answered: - I have to provide a solution to the King within seven days. If not I will be taken out of my job. I am really confused because there is no solution for what the King has asked.

- What is the solution that the King is looking for?, Solomon was curious.
The goldsmith presented the demand of the King to Solomon as follows: - I need to make a gold ring for the king with an inscription on it which should help the king not to be very happy and forget the eternal truth at his happy moments. At the same time the inscriptions on it should help him not to lose his heart when he is facing failures and desperation.

Immediately Solomon gave what he needs to inscribe on it: - Write as follows: "This too shall pass."

Time
Little drops of water,
Little grains of sand,
Make the mighty ocean,
And the beauteous land
And the little moments
Humble though they are,
Make the mighty age of eternity.

“The only way to survive eternity is to be able to appreciate each moment.” 

September 23, 2019: Happy AUTUMN, dear friends!

      AUTUMN has arrived – enjoy it!
On September 23, 2019 is the autumnal equinox, marking the first day of autumn in Northern Hemisphere.

Autumn is a wonderful time of fruition when the abundance offered us all is acknowledged and honoured. 
The harvest period brings along wonderful occasions to extend gratitude toward all what it has been given to us.

Wishing you a beautiful season! 

The Autumnal Equinox is an astronomical event, nearly noticed by everyone, marking the arrival of autumn in Northern Hemisphere.
During the equinox, the night & day have almost the same length (twelve hours) throughout the entire world.

● A previous post on the same theme: 
AUTUMNAL Equinox – 2018

Alice’s Book Club – SUMMER session of 2019

Slowly but surely the current summer time is coming closer to the end, but this Friday (September 6’19) I was pleased to meet with my group of dear friends for our seasonal book club session. 
Upon arrival, while my guests were joyfully settling in, the soft classical music from the background along with the relaxing fragrance of jasmine & French lavender oils made everything coming together nicely and smoothly emanating at the same time a profound sense of collective peace and shared content. 

On the other hand, as some of us traveled extensively this summer or being super busy with lots of outdoor activities, rather than our usual novel this time the chosen subject of discussion was an essay on communication (called: "Psychology in Communication Process") issued by Stanford University. Additionally, this was conjugated with another brief paper, called “The Importance of Personal Boundaries”.

Needless to say how well these materials were embraced by the entire group & how extensive, interesting as well as stimulating were the subsequent conversations…true heart to heart connections & brain to brain talks. 

From a scholastic perspective, I would like to briefly state that the fields of psychology and communication are closely related, and a distinctive area which is common to psychology and communication is the study of cultural influences on identity formation and social interaction. Aside of that, we all know that psychology has a well-established tradition of examining cultural differences on how the mind functions. Over time, psychologists have also focused on how culture shapes thought by directly comparing people from different cultures, while in turn, communication scholars have theorized and examined the very acts of expression and interaction of cultural processes. Given the historical development of these two areas, psychology is more of an established discipline than communication, so communication may benefit from the consolidated approaches of psychology.

The second paper discussed that evening emphasized that in fact setting boundaries is a key concept ensuring that relationships are collegial, respectful, supportive and caring. Once clear boundaries are set in place, people would become more polite, therefore you can be yourself to a greater extent, graciously addressing your needs without the fear of judgment; as a result, the emotional manipulators would vanish away being replaced by sustainable, loving and mutually respectful relationships. 

Our group conversations that evening were flourishing exponentially making each of us completely forget the time. All participants were truly delighted with the topic, asking for a repeat session of such kind, which of course was music to my ears. 
Like usual by now, we closed the gathering with a light meal, and genuine life related conversations, abundantly ‘seasoned’ with kind fellowship. 
Once again, my sincere appreciation goes to my friends who promptly & enthusiastically responded to my invitation. Wishing them each a great rest of summer! 
Best regards,
Alice

“Only through communication human life could hold meaning.”